If Your Guy Talks About THIS, He's Definitely Serious About You

GUARANTEED keeper.

At the start of every relationship it’s not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's serious about you and a guy seriously trying to get in your pants. The latter is often doing whatever it takes to get you into bed. He’s courting you, being attentive and saying all the things you want to hear, which confuses you even further.
So how do you decipher what’s going on and really figure out if this guy's serious about you?
It all begins with the way you listen. Below, I will give you some tips on what to listen for so that you know he’s not playing any games.

 

By now, I hope you've taken my advice and asked him the single most important question you should ask on a first date. The premise of that conversation is, “What are you looking for?”
If you listened intently to his answer, you went on a second date with this man because what you’re both looking for the same thing — something serious. You both share the key aspects of your relationship vision. Congrats on passing step number one!
So you’re both looking for a serious relationship, but how do you know if he’s serious about you?
A man who's serious about a relationship is talking about serious things. He’s looking to qualify you as much as you are looking to qualify him.
A serious relationship type of guy talks to you about his vision for his life, his goals and his challenges. He’s willing to share himself with you and show vulnerability. But here’s the caveat and where your listening will really come into play: There's a difference between a man who's willing to share for the sake of rehashing and a man who is sharing for discovery. Therein lies the difference in the man who is serious about you, versus the man who is NOT.
A man who isn't serious about you, or at least one who you shouldn't take seriously, is the one who shares for the sake of sharing. He’s treating you like he would a therapist. He's only interested in someone listening to him talk or in saying what you want to hear. Your conversation doesn’t go anywhere because he continues to rehash what has already been.
A man who is serious about you and your future together is sharing new ideas and asking questions so that he can learn and discover with you. Your conversation is exploratory and positive and has room for growth. He’s asking about your goals and your vision because he doesn’t want to continue to date you if you’re not serious about the same things.
THAT is a guy you should hang onto.

By: Unknown On 23:06

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WORLD’S TOP 10 COUNTRIES WITH SLOW INTERNET CONNECTION

Internet the way of getting information, entertaining, is being a most important part of life. When we start to click tabs or links in internet we want them to open as quickly as possible because we are eager to get what we want. What if the internet connection itself is slow? In world there are many countries which have slow internet connections. Think about those people who live in those countries and be calm that you are lucky if you do not belong one of them. Here we have world’s top 10 countries which have slow internet connection among of the countries which have provided internet facilities.
According to the research held previous year in the crowd of the internet using countries the slow internet connection having countries are as below:

10. Malaysia:

Malaysia is the country located in Southeast Asia. In Malaysia internet was started form 1995 A.D. It is the first country which has slowest internet connection. It has 16% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the tenth highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 4.0% from the last quarter. This country is overcoming the problem in the speed of tortoise. There is no such progress in the problem of overcoming the slow internet connection problem.

9. Kazakhstan:

Kazakhstan is the country located in Central Asia. In Kazakhstan internet was effective form 2001 A.D. It is the ninth country which has slowest internet connection. It has 16% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the ninth highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 4.2% from the last quarter. The speed of overcoming the problem of slow internet connection is not satisfactory in this country.

8. Indonesia:

Indonesia is the country located in Southeast Asia. In Indonesia internet was started form 1983 A.D. It is the eighth country which has slowest internet connection. It has 19% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the eighth highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 13% from the last quarter. The speed of overcoming the slow internet connection problem is quite satisfactory.

7. Syria

Syria is the country located in Western Asia. In Syria internet was effective from 2003 A.D. It is the seventh country which has slowest internet connection. It has 19% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the seventh highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 10% from the last quarter. The speed of overcoming the problem is very slow in this country.

6. Bolivia

Bolivia is the country located in central South America. In Bolivia internet was effective from 2000 A.D. It is the sixth country which has slowest internet connection. It has 25% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the sixth highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 22% from the last quarter. This country is overcoming more rapidly the problem amongst of the countries with slower speed. The speed of overcoming the problem of slow internet connection is very good in this country.

5. India:

India is the country located in South Asia. In India internet was started from 1995 A.D. It is the fifth country which has slowest internet connection. It has 27% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the fifth highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 5.6% from the last quarter. The speed of overcoming the problem of slow internet connection is not good in this country.

4. Iran:

Iran is the country located in Western Asia. In Iran internet was started from 1993 A.D. It is the fourth country which has slowest internet connection. It has 30% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the fourth highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 6.0% from the last quarter. The speed of overcoming the problem of slow internet connection is not satisfactory in this country.

 3. Nigeria:

Nigeria is the country located in West Africa. In Nigeria, internet was started from 1995. It is the third country which has slowest internet connection. It has 31% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the third highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 16% from the last quarter. This country is showing progress in solving the problem. The speed of overcoming the problem of slow internet connection is quite satisfactory in this country.

2. Nepal:

Nepal is a landlocked country located in South Asia. Internet was effective form 1994 A.D. in Nepal. It is the second country which has slowest internet connection. It has 32% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the second highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 4.0% from the last quarter. The speed of overcoming the problem of slow internet connection is very poor in this country.

1. Libya

Libya is the country in the Maghreb region of North Africa. In Libya internet was effective from 2000 A.D. It is the first country which has slowest internet connection. It has 52% internet connection below the speed of 256 kbps. This is the highest percentage of slow internet connections. Though it has slowest speed, this problem was decreased by 5.7% from the last quarter. The speed of overcoming the problem of slow internet connection is not good in this country.
Final Conclusion: Although these countries have started internet facility in their country likely in same time, some are doing good and increasing their quality of internet facility. While some are in the same pace of starting phase to improve their service quality. The most good doing country is Bolivia, which is increasing its service quality rapidly. Though these countries are having problems they and their citizens are using internet facility.

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Top 10 Love Games You Can Play with Your Partner

There is a aphorism ‘Couples that play, calm break together’. And yes, with the age-old adage, relationships ability achromatize abroad and the adulation or the band that already existed to the apogee could accomplish a move beneath to the grounds. So, what abroad is appropriate added than some absolutely adventurous adulation amateur that could accompany you and your accomplice added abutting to a absolutely newer acme of interactivity and intimacy? Adulation antagonism and amateur add aroma to any relationship.
Sometimes a simple bold amid two couples will area off all the boredom present in the adulation activity and get both of the ally aback in the affection of affection and romance. So, get aback in activity folks, these top 10 adulation amateur you can play with your accomplice will absolutely actualize a adult adventurous and baking atmosphere aural the sheets. Who would not adulation to bright all the blaze present in the adulation sack.

10. Play the story

Play the story can be a fun time for a couple. Just take a paper and write down a line about anything you like. Maybe ‘I’m in my washroom, making up my hair’ to start with. Ask your partner to write another line relative to the first one. Make sure to add some erotic line to make it more romantic. Continue passing the paper to and forth and jot as many line both of the parties can. And, when you people get bored, put the story into action and see how the hot tale plays out.

9. Flip to Watch

Get you and your partner in a dark room and blow some candles. Turn on a romantic, slow-paced instrumental music or a sexy song. Take a coin and flip it. If its ‘Heads’ you get to be the ‘watcher’ and your partner has to get in bed. Ask your partner to do anything you’d like to have him do in bed. Strip, talk dirty and sit back to enjoy the show. Flip the coin again and repeat the same process.

8. Sack Jack

Did you know, there’s a love game of Black Jack. Yes, it’s ‘Sack Jack’ where one of the partner is the dealer and the other is a player. And, there is no money to bet on. It’s love. Put on some romantic favors like a massage, a deep smooch, a hug or a minute of bed-time maybe? Don’t forget the rules, if one of you two makes 21 first, the other one has to put off a cloth from the body. Play until any one of you get completely undressed. You could have some more fun after then, what say?

7. Fantastic 25

What if you and your partner are feeling bored on a long journey. There might be people around and it might not be so good to smooch around in such place. Also, if you’re dating someone new and haven’t opened up much, try the ‘Fantastic 25′. Ask your girlfriend different questions regarding her life, relationships, love and different sexual fantasies in either ‘yes’ or ‘no’. You could figure out a lot of things and get much closer then. Just make sure you don’t put boring questions regarding her past relationships.

6. One Step forward, One Step Backward!

What if your partner have come home from abroad after a long time? You might just want to explore him again and want to do it in a romantic way. Get laid in bed and ask your partner to move close to the door. Start asking him some ‘yes-no’ questions. If he answers you right, ask him to take a step forward, and a step backward, if he goes wrong. Just make sure that the questions are not too tough. Go easy during the start and make it tough when he gets more close to you; Ain’t that Romantic?

5. Spin the Bottle

Here is a classic game, Spin the Bottle that you can play with a fun twist. Place several liquors, sexy items, creams, strawberries, honey and chocolates in a circle alongside you two people pretending them to be your friends. Now, find an empty bottle and spin it. If it points towards your partner, ask him to kiss you and use the items the way you want if the bottle points at them.

4. Lovopoly

What if you could play the typical game of Monopoly including some love buzz in it? Lovopoly will surely get both the parties engaged and build a strong one-to-one bond. You don’t need to invest much as well. Just get a cardboard and paint the top like a monopoly board. Mention the place where you both met in the ‘GO’ section. In the other spots, mention things like go on dates, vacation or a movie. Make sure you replace ‘Jail’ with fights. And what could be more enjoyable if you replace ‘Money’ with ‘Kisses’. The winner will get as many kisses as they have; a win-win romantic situation.

3. Burst the balloon

Who says kids only enjoy balloons? Even love partners can have an amazing time with balloon games and the balloon burst game will surely make the atmosphere completely loving. Blow as many as party balloon. Have them placed between you and your partner while on bed and starting hugging, kissing and squeezing each other and squash the balloons. Just make sure that you don’t pop out the balloon alone. Another great way of playing this is fill the balloons with some sweet love notes or good nostalgias. You’ll enjoy it to the best you can imagine.

2. Hide and Seek

Before you might feel that Hide and Seek is just a normal game you played during your childhood, let us tell you that it is no normal Hide and Seek game that we are proposing. A Hide and Seek game with both the partners undressed or just a piece of cloth in the body that turns on your partner. Just make sure that the game gets intensely naughty with some sexy rules to add up the tempo. You can also put a bet in the game to make it kinkier. If he wins, he will take some time to get extreme pleasure and if he loses, make him your slave for a day or vice-versa.

1. A minute in heaven

Though kissing is a part of a relationship that ties strong bond between couples, it can be enjoyed if nicely adopted as well. Slather dark lipsticks and then kiss as much as you can on your partner’s body in a minute. Next, it’s your partner’s turn to repeat the same on your body and after both of the partners finish, count the number of the kisses to see who managed to take most of the lip impressions. The only problem in this game is, guys may not want to apply color on their lips, but if there is fun; why not to do it for your girl?

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38 Secrets To A Happy Relationship-CHECK OUT THE SECRETS

These celebs know a thing or two when it comes to love!
When it comes to love advice, who do you go to? Your mom? Dad? Best friends? Maybe even your co-workers. Regardless of whom you ask, you probably just want someone to tell you the truth about love, dating and relationships.
So are you searching for some love advice at this moment? If so, lucky for you. Here we have 38 celebrities who share the best advice they've ever gotten. Sure, actors, musicians and TV personalities are the LAST people you'd want to take love advice from given how hard it is to maintain a relationship in Hollywood but don't judge just yet.
From Andy Cohen’s simple rule about just going for it to Kelly Ripa’s wise advice about arguing and not getting divorced, these celebs will shock you with their awesome tips about love.
Got your own tips? Share them in the comments!



                                    1. Actress And Comedian Mindy Kaling 
                                         "My mom always used to say,
                                    "You can't say I love you before you can say
                                     " And I think that sort of makes sense."













       2. Fox Sports Reporter Erin Andrews

"From my mom and dad, because they're happily married for a long time: Just listen. Listen to him. I'm so independent and driven and stubborn. Just let him talk. It's about not being so stubborn and having to win every argument. My parents set a great example. They love each other and take care of each other so much."




        3. Singer Jesse James

"It's kind of cheesy, but my mama, who you all have seen on the show, says to cook for your man. She's Southern, so when he comes home, be pullin' a pie out of the oven. That's always been her advice, and you know what? It works. Your man wants to see you in the kitchen, puttin' some love into some food; it works for Eric, that's for sure."




        4. Actress Candace Cameron Bure

"The best advice I've ever been given is being handed a Bible. That's the blueprint for marriage that we go by, and that's what our marriage is grounded in. We also have other married couples who are examples in our lives. My parents have been married over 40 years, and both sets of grandparents for over 65 years. When you see couples in long-term relationships and you see them go through good times and bad times, you realize it's about being committed enough and loving your partner enough to hang in there regardless."



       5. HGTV's Anthony Carrino

"My mom told me, "It shouldn't be that difficult." My parents had their moments for sure, but the majority of their relationship has been really great. It shouldn't be that much work to make love work."





       6. HGTV's John Colaneri

"Always be honest."



        7. The Real Housewives of Orange County's Lydia McLaughlin

"Love is a decision, not just an emotion. It is selfless, and a commitment."




        8. TV Personality Giuliana Rancic

"You've got to be good to each other … it really comes back to respect. I was raised in a very Catholic, Italian family and it was all about respect. Don't talk badly about [your partner] the second they walk out the door; really preserve your relationship and be good to each other. Treat it like gold."





         9. Actor Joe Manganiello

"The best love advice I've ever received is probably, 'I'm not leaving the relationship; I'm just leaving the house.'"






       10. TV Personality Andy Cohen

"Just go with your gut and communicate."





 
       11. Actress Alyson Hannigan

"Don't ever spend more than three weeks apart. Two and a half weeks, maybe three, was the longest we ever did."




         12. TV Host & Actress Vanessa Lachey

"Don't lie to your partner. Ultimately the expression on your face gives you away, and they feel betrayed by the lie. If this is the person you're going to be with—forever and ever, for better or worse—they will love you for all of your good and all of your bad. They'll love you for you. So open communication is key. I have no secrets and no skeletons in my closet with my husband, and I love that. I feel comfortable and at ease with myself when I'm around him. I love the woman that I've become with him."








        13. Burlesque Dancer Dita Von Teese

"I think the best love advice I've ever received is really about understanding that communication is key, of course, but also that there's not one perfect person for you. You kind of have to accept what are the things that are negotiable for you and what are not."






        14. NFL Player Victor Cruz

"Take your time. Love is gonna come. Don't force it. Don't try to make it happen. Relax, take your time, and you'll know when it's there. My mom gave me that advice."







        15. Socialite Paris Hilton

"[My mom told me] to always be loyal and treat someone how you want to be treated. Find someone that you can love and that's going to be your best friend."




        16. 30 Rock's Katrina Bowden

"My mom always told me, "Whatever happens, will happen" or 'Whatever is supposed to happen, will happen." I've learned you'll know when you find the right person. When I found the right person, I knew it immediately."






       17. Reality Star Kristin Cavallari

"Someone gave me the Love Languages book, and that has been the best book I've ever read about relationships and has helped me the most."






       18. The Five Love Languages Author Dr. Gary Chapman

"Before I discovered the concept of the 5 love languages, a bit of advice I was given was to become a student of my wife and to take time to learn what makes her feel loved. I soon learned that what makes her feel loved may not always be the thing I want to do because it may not come natural to me. But learning to love her in the way that makes her feel loved is a greater demonstration of my love for her, because I've chosen to do it with a goal of pleasing her."








         19. Kim Kardashian's BFF Jonathan Cheban

"Pay attention to the girl, instead of myself. A bunch of people [told me that]. It's terrible. I'm very into myself, so people are always like, "Pay attention to the other person. Don't ever separate yourself." It's a good lesson. I'm learning. I'm doing good."







       20. TV Personality Kelly Ripa

"Don't get divorced after your first argument! I have a lot of friends that have one fight and that's it, they get divorced. I go, 'Wait a minute! Oh my gosh, you guys! Calm down! You'll forget in three days what you were fighting about. I promise. So just let it marinate a little bit—that's my best love advice."






      21. The Real Housewives of Miami's Adriana de Moura

"When I was about 15, [my grandmother] said something I will always remember: 'Love comes before money.' I will never let anything like greed come between us when it comes to love. She was married to my grandfather for 70 years. It's very hard to have a long-term relationship and if you're not sure, it's not going to last. Make sure that you truly love."





22. Actor & Host Mario Lopez

"Treat a woman how you'd want someone to treat your mom."






       23. The Bachelorette's Desiree Hartsock

"I think it's trying to see through the other's eyes and allowing yourself to be selfless. I think that's when you have a balanced give-and-take to keep a good foundation."






        24. Olympic Gold Medal Winner Gabby Douglas

"Don't be shy. Go for it and ask your crush out."




       25. American Idol and Glee's Jessica Sanchez

"Have fun. Especially while you're still young, you gotta keep the spark up. Even when things get boring, just remember to have fun."





       26. Pretty Little Liars' Sasha Pieterse

"If you're looking for love, focus on something you love to do and work hard. Love will find you. Basically, love yourself before you love anyone else. A lot of girls have such insecurities nowadays that you have to be comfortable with who you are before you can really have a good relationship with someone else."




      27. Professional Volleyball Player Gabrielle Reece

"Have a short memory and a lot of forgiveness. Especially us girls who don't forget a thing. Move on …"







       28. Fashion Designer Zac Posen

"Love advice is like life advice, so there are so many elements of that. I think humor, patience, admiration are really important love elements. Love and respect. You have to respect the person that you're going to love, and you have to be confident in yourself and love yourself."










      29. CNN's HLN News Anchor Robin Meade

 'Think about how much you'd miss that if he were gone tomorrow.' This is my senior producer's advice in my ear during our news show if I'm grumbling about my hubby, whether about his habit of leaving dirty clothes around, or the way he goes into la la land while I'm talking with him, or that he wakes me up being loud overnight. How true! Heaven forbid, but if something ever happens to our loved ones, oh how we'd long for them to be back, and their little aggravating habits would be something cherished.









          30. The Real Housewives of New York's Heather Thomso
"Well, it's one of the oldest. It really is paradoxical, but it's true: You just can't go to bed mad. You have to make up, because there's only one alternative, and that alternative is not being together. So, my husband and I always decide we might as well make up, whether we agree to disagree or not. We understand we are individuals and that together we're unbelievably powerful and that we have a family that is the most important thing, and that I wouldn't trade him for the world. So, love is about give and take, and love is about understanding that you're individuals and together as a couple, you're the strongest there ever is ifyou're in the right couple."
     31. Sex Expert Emily Morse

"Love yourself, open your heart which means doing the work on yourself first. Then love will follow."





    32. Property Brothers' Drew Scott

"Maya Angelou's quote: 'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'"




         33. Property Brothers' Jonathan Scott

"Never stop inspiring and surprising the person you love and allow them to do the same for you."





        34. Actor Eric Dane

"I was going to say, 'It's work, relationships take work,' but that makes it sound like relationships are hard, that they're work. Rebecca and I have always gotten along really well. We've always had a really strong connection. I'm the last guy that should be giving people advice on love, that's for sure. But I have a great marriage. I just got lucky, I guess."



        35. Actress Angie Harmon

"Kyra Sedgwick told me, 'Keep your heart where your feet are' and that's incredibly difficult to do. It takes a lot of concentration. You've got to be conscientious of each other."




         36. Actor Jesse Metcalfe

"There's no perfect relationship. All relationships are work. If you put in the work, you'll reap the rewards."



          37. Actress Cara Santana

'It's much better to understand than to be understood,' from my mom."

         38. Actor Dennis Haskins

"I lost my dad back in the fall, and my dad said something to me a long time ago. He said, 'Are you happy with who you are now?' because we just had a real serious talk. And I said, 'Yeah.' He said, 'Then you can't regret what got you to where you are. So whatever you do and whatever mistakes you make, learn from them and grow. And just always treat people with kindness,' which I've tried to do."





 Got your own tips? Share them in the comments!





  Credit: Tango Media Corporation

By: Unknown On 11:48

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Relationship Challenges- This tips can help bring back your dead Marriage/Relationship Alive

 

4 Steps To Handling STRESS In Your Marriage

Discover how to stay sane when a spouse loses their job and reduce the stress in your life.

It may be cliché, but we teach what we need to learn most. When my husband got laid off all my fear bells and whistles went off in my nervous system. Would he get another job? Will we have to relocate? Is our retirement in jeopardy? The unanswerable questions and deer in headlights feeling is something I had to learn how to cope with and quell over the months that ensued. After 5 long months and lots of frustrating moments, anxiety and attempts to "help" him out, I learned quite a bit about getting through his layoff.
My initial reaction was to get more productive in my work. I had the best summer on record for my business. Unfortunately, getting more business didn't actually resolve the stress I felt internally and it did nothing for him. In fact, I found that the pressure just built up. It was at that time that I then returned to what I know works. The following four steps helped us to thrive during this time.
1. Intention

The best way to go through a layoff (your own or your spouse's) is to choose an empowering perspective. First, contemplate your intention for this time. If your spouse is laid off, what frame of mind would be most rewarding to you and your family? Could it be an opportunity to reflect upon what is most important?
Set an intention for things to be better. Ask yourself, in what specific ways do you want things to be better than when your partner was in his/her previous position? Trust that this is possible and do your best to let yourself surrender into that possibility.
An additional intention could be to enjoy this time and treat it like a gift and well deserved break for your spouse that can nurture him. The key to having peace during this time is to trust the process.
More on that later. Create a practice of setting intentions for the day and the future each morning (or night before you go to bed). Simply write down what is possible that you'd like to have happen in your life. If you are resistant to setting intentions, at least clear your mind of negative expectations (usually perpetuated by fear). To clear your mind, you may want to listen to a guided relaxation audio that takes your mind off fearful thoughts and gives you a new perspective.

2. Honor Your Feelings.
If you find yourself with feelings of desperation, control, and fear, by all means acknowledge the feelings. Feelings are messages from your soul that need their say and want to be felt. Spend some time (which may be uncomfortable) exploring the feelings consciously.
What does that mean? Well, start being curious about the feeling. Don't try to just numb it out with alcohol, distractions, food, shopping, gambling, gossiping, complaining. or other avoidance mechanisms. Those behaviors will actually exacerbate the feelings and cause more distress.
Instead, lay on your bed and ask yourself, "what am I feeling?" Stay with that question beyond the simple answer that comes up. If you go beyond the reaction, and breathe into this feeling as if you were listening to a highly respected person who was speaking a foreign language and had an extremely important message for you. Like learning a new language it takes patience and attention.
Practice doing this consistently and you will create greater awareness about the feeling and about yourself. Furthermore, the better you get at listening to this foreign speaker, the more the feeling can resolve itself without you doing anything else. Caution: while laying on your bed "feeling" do your best to avoid "thinking" about your situation and/or or partner.
Avoid going into justifications, complaints, and rationalizing your feelings. Rather let the feelings be there. As you breathe into them notice if they change or if a new awareness comes to you. Be curious and then ask, "What is the underlying desire of your heart that is driving this feeling?"
3. Take Care of Yourself.
If there are people in your life who you care about you and know you are feeling extra stress during this time, they have probably encouraged you to take care of yourself. I agree. Think about taking a nap or a bath. Lighting some candles and put on some soothing music.
Take time to nurture yourself. Can't think of what to do? What would you tell your best friend to do to take care of herself? Do something special that you know you enjoy... pick flowers, walk in the park, sing a song, dance. If you have something you enjoy doing that nurtures you, please comment below and share your ideas. This may help another woman who  is waiting for your ideas on the perfect special way to cultivate some joy.
Another way to take care of yourself and your feelings is to channel the energy of your feelings to something healthy for you. Some people like to run, walk, dance, hula hoop, garden or do a favorite form of movement or exercise.
Using color, collage, or clay can also be a great way to allow your feelings to express themselves and have their say.  Singing, dancing and writing (as in a journal) also work. Channeling your energy is very different than avoiding the feelings. This is a conscious act of using the energy you have to support you.
4. Trust the Process.
The most rewarding step is letting go of expectations and trusting that everything will work out for the best in the right time. Think of it this way. There is a bigger plan that you can't even imagine. But it is working out for your highest good and better than you could even ask for or create on your own.
If you let go of your need to have a resolution right now, and instead hold your intention, then let the plan play out. You might be amazed at how good things happen.
To summarize, here are the steps to making a spouse's layoff as positive and productive as possible:
1. Set an intention to have things be better
2. Be honest about your fears and find healthy way to channel this energy
3. Take time for yourself
4. Trust the process
Remember to give yourself a break. Know that you are of great value and things will work out.

The Secret To Taking Baby-Making From Stressful To SEXY

Throw away the basal thermometer! Baby-making sex doesn't have to feel forced.

As you all know (because I can't shut up about it), my sex life is not exactly fireworks and handcuffs and a regular reenactment of the Kama Sutra. In fact, when my husband and I first decided to throw away the birth control pills and condoms to try for a baby, I worried: I wanted to be a mom so damn bad, but the frequency with which we had sex was definitely lacking, and I often experience pain during sex (though getting creative with lube, toys and positions has helped).
I kept hearing stories of how babymaking sex was just the pits. Women were obsessively tracking their cycles, taking their temperatures and telling their husbands, "Impregnate me now, goddammit! I'm fertile!" Obviously, such niceties as slow seduction went out the window. Foreplay seemed so ... contrived, and every deep thrust was so obviously filled with babymaking desperation.
The thing is, stress can affect your fertility levels, making it even more difficult to conceive (which is a total bummer for those who are feeling stressed out over their low fertility levels). Those who struggle with anxiety are actually 12 percent less likely to conceive during even the most fertile days in their cycle. So when we decided to start trying, I took a deep breath, ordered some Pre-seed (a fertility-friendly lubricant, because—lord knows—my nether regions needed the help), and pointedly refused to go into contortions around all those cycle trackers and basal thermometers on the market.

Amazingly, my sex life has actually improved. But perhaps I shouldn't be so surprised.
Granted, my husband at first resented feeling like a baby-making factory every time I asked for sex. (Calling it "baby-making sex" could have been part of the problem.) But the more we had sex, the more I actually wanted to have sex. Not baby-making sex. Just ... sex. And once it became clear that I was actually (wonder of wonders) horny, he was all for it.
So why did the added pressure of baby-making suddenly make sex so sizzling hot for me? To put it simply, the more you have sex, the better it feels (and the more you want it). Practice makes perfect, and practice also makes for higher libido levels.
Because baby-making forced me to make sex a higher priority — something I found difficult in my pre-babymaking days — sex suddenly became sexy.

Has anyone else experienced this? Did baby-making sex make things even hotter for you? Or was it just plain horrific, and you think I'm perhaps an insane person?

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12 Ways To Bring The Sexy Back To Your Relationship

        1. Up The Kinky
Upping the kink factor in your relationship can actually be a great way for those of us who are more vanilla to break out of shells and experiment with something new. It can also be a way of feeling closer to our partner.
"This being said, there may be behaviors that you are just not open to doing and that is OK too," says Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a clinical sexologist, marriage and family therapist, author and host. Partners should have enough sensitivity to work you into these behaviors as well as be ok with some hard and fast boundaries. Many people into kink have learned to be very good negotiators sexually as very few people have exactly the same proclivities.

      2. Relax
Relaxing allows you to be more aware of your sexual energy, enhances sexual feelings, and frees you up to respond sexually, says Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.
For example, allow time for morning sex when you are still relaxed from sleep, or after a nap. Save some water by showering together sometimes and let nature take its course. Maybe summon up your teenage hormones and try some naughty petting in the backseat of your care after date night. Whatever you do, just go with what feels natural, and make sure to have fun. That's what great sex is all about.














   

      3. Write A Dirty Story
Many men get off on porn, ladies on erotica—but we all love a bit of scintillation. Make it more personal with a service like Hoochy Mail Service, suggests Denise Beauregard, owner of Urban Intima Inc., an online intimate apparel retailer.
Hoochy mail is a free online erotic mail service that allows users to customize erotic stories written by the sender to the recipient. They can be romantic, sexy, or off the wall. If you were to send this to your significant other (his personal email only please, no need to peak an employers' curiosity) well, let's just day this move can make a man come straight the hell home.

      4. Sexy Surprises
Most occasions, we send flowers, candy, maybe a teddy bear. Kick things up a notch with a delivery like Spicy Subscriptions, which discreetly delivers fun and flirty romantic surprises to your door. Every month you’ll be treated to romantic gifts, fun toys, massage oils, lingerie and more, which you can then "try out" together!







  

                5. Communicate
The best beginning for a lovely sexual encounter is a good, honest and open conversation, says Tessina. When you were new lovers, you talked and sex was easy. Frequently make time to "catch up" with each other over an unhurried dinner or breakfast. Express your hopes and dreams, clear the air, and you can both relax. From there, it's not such a long distance into the bedroom.

       6. Sexy Scavenger Hunt
Select 12 items to hide around the house unbeknownst to one another and write out your clues. As each one of you find a clue you take a roll of the dice and do the roll, says Beauregard. The possibility of 24 acts of love and lust minimum, what thrill and this does not take into account any of the main events.

        7. Be Flexible
Physical agility can be helpful, but emotional flexibility will really
improve your sex life, says Tessina. The longer you and your partner are together, the more you need options. Quickies are great fun when you're pressed for time, and morning hanky panky can make the whole day more exciting.  Take things up a notch with a touch of role-play, says Tessina.
Act out all the silly, forbidden or exciting fantasies like nurse and patient (or doctor), children "playing house", famous movie star and adoring fan, or your two favorite characters from a soap opera, novel or movie. If you feel a little silly, laughter will only make it more fun.





                  

                   8. The Key Is Give & Take
Open a dialogue about what really turns the both of you on and don't do it while you are in the middle of having sex. Be honest about what scares you and why. Lots of people who think of BDSM assume that it's all whips and chains but in actuality there are a whole spectrum of behaviors from mild spanking to light bondage with silk ties.
"It is both partners' responsibility to be gentle and really know what they are doing; while remain opening and communicating their needs. For instance, most people in the kink community know that it is the "bottom" or the person having things done to them that is actually in control of the play," says Dr. Kat.

    9. Evaluate The Situation

If you removed all of the negative self-talk from your head, are there situations that titillate you, even a little? Some guys feel the need to get over the idea of feeling threatened by a woman who is kinkier than he is. Some are afraid of being judged by others if they ever found out and some, well they are just not wired that way.
"Once you've looked at your fears, I always suggest trying something new. If you don't like it, you can always communicate that. I find that most people don’t know what they are missing though. Once you can learn to open up sexually, often times you feel emotionally more connected as well just by sharing the experience," says Dr. Kat.

              


                      

       10. Touch Me
If you're thinking "the idea of sex is nice but I’m way too stressed to get there," get your partner an aromatherapy massage candle to slow things down and heat things up, suggests sexologist Emily Morse, host of the podcast Sex with Emily.
Just light the candle and let it make a nice pool of warm luxurious massage oil (it's not waxy or hot), then drip it from a foot above those body parts (yours or your partner's) that need special attention. Start massaging the oil into the skin and go from there. You can even use them on my self as a body moisturizer every day.

        11. Play
The couples that play together, stay together. Once you put away the Monopoly set, pull out a sexy board game to get you going and get you in the mood, says Dr. Morse.  Try the Love or Lust board game,  if you want some flirty fun or the Bondage Seductions Game if you've been wanted to kink things up.

        1. Get Buzzed
A vibrator will enhance your sex life with or without a partner. You can get one to enhance your solo time and find those other pleasure spots, like the Fifi for extra G-spot stimulation or try Lifestyles’ His and Her pleasure massagers, which provide wonderful vibrating stimulation for men and women, says Dr. Morse. Ring in the New Year with a buzz, not a hangover.

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Shhh! 10 Phrases Your Guy NEVER Wants To Hear

An honest relationship is one thing, but consider keeping these 10 comments to yourself.

You pride yourself on your open, honest relationship. But that doesn't mean you should blurt out any thought that comes to mind.
Sometimes, a comment that seems perfectly harmless to you might be hurtful, awkward or just plain irritating to your boyfriend.
Excelle has identified 10 such comments. Ignore us at your own risk.
1. "My ex did the exact same thing!"
Whether it's a positive correlation (they both always hold the door open) or a negative one (neither one showers often enough), your boyfriend never wants to hear that he's anything like your ex. Ever.
You don't want him to feel like you're always comparing the two of them, do you? Think about it: Do you really want him to imagine that he does other things just like your ex? Doubtful. Plus, he might think you're still hung up on your former flame.
Either way, a comment like this won't do much for his self-esteem. So the next time you experience boyfriend deja-vu, keep it to yourself.
2. "Helen's pregnant… Shhhh."
Remember on Sex and the City when Carrie tells Aidan that Miranda's pregnant but that he can't tell Steve? Remember how upset Aidan was to hear the incriminating news? Your boyfriend doesn't want to hear information that could get him into trouble. And even if he does want to hear it, he really shouldn't. Don't burden him with someone else's secret. And besides, if he does spill the beans, your friend is going to be mad at you, not him.
Along the same lines, he doesn't want to hear about your friend's yeast infections, her irregular periods or her IBS. It's bad enough he has to hear about yours. 

3. "When we're married/have kids…"
It's natural to fantasize about wedded bliss and the three kids you and your beau will one day spawn — you're only human. And sometimes you might even entertain this fantasy very early on in a relationship. But unless you want to scare him away permanently, keep thoughts like these in your head where they belong.
Even if he himself has thought about your happily-ever-after future, he probably doesn't want to hear it described out loud just yet. Wait until you're sure you're on the same page regarding marriage, kids, and the future of your relationship before you start prophesizing. A gut feeling probably isn't good enough.
4. "Do you think she's pretty?"
When you ask a question like this, your boyfriend knows he can't win.
If he says "yes," you'll probably get jealous and upset (whether or not you show it, see #5). You might even follow up with "Is she prettier than me?" Talk about a loaded question!
Of course, if he says "no" (and she clearly is pretty), you'll accuse him of being a liar. You'll wonder what else he's lying about, even as you assure him you don't mind if he says "yes." Pfff…as if you're that insecure!
Has he managed to convince you that he genuinely doesn't find her attractive at all? You'll wonder what his bad taste says about you.
See?
5. "I'm fine" or "Nevermind"
Your face says it all. So does the fact that you haven't said a word in the past hour. And the way you snapped over the misplaced remote control isn't hiding anything either. But when he asks if you're okay, you say you're fine. At this point, your boyfriend wants to tear his hair out.
Passive-aggressive behavior doesn't help anyone. First, you miss an opportunity to actually address what's bothering you. You also bottle up your frustrations and create new problems. By the time you actually try to tackle what's really bothering you, you're both too upset about too many things to have a constructive discussion.
6. "I just farted."
In a man's mind, women only use the bathroom to re-apply their lipstick (or, at the very worst, pee). They know they're kidding themselves, but they really don't want any physical, verbal, or olfactory indication of the contrary.
Telling him you farted means he can no longer blame the dog. Suddenly, you're one of the guys, and not in a sexy, "I watch football and drink beer but I'm still a girly-girl" kind of way.
Sure, he'll get over it. He may even laugh about it from time to time. But he'd still prefer that it never happened. So depending on how squeamish your guy is, you might want to wait till you're married to be disgusting.
7. "I'll try anything once!"
Because unless you really, really, really mean it, don't get his hopes up.
8. "Are you sure you're okay?"
Sometimes we're thrown off guard when our guy is uncharacteristically quiet. We'll prod and probe, hoping to get to the bottom of their issue (and too often, we're absolutely sure it's something we've done). When in reality, there may not be a concrete reason at all.
Men have bad days too — they can be moody, tired, or just generally not feel like talking. They're only human! As hard as it can be, don't read into it too much. Give him his space and keep yourself busy until he snaps out of it.
Ask him what's bothering him over and over again and the only honest answer will be "You."
9. "I hate my thighs"
If he didn't find you attractive, he wouldn't be with you in the first place. Period, end of story.
Putting yourself down in front of him makes you look insecure, and just in case you didn't know, men really hate that (see #6). Just like women, they're usually attracted to self-confidence and put off by its opposite.
Think about it. Would you want to be with a man who constantly talked about how much he hated his calves or how he felt like a failure in his career? Uh, no way.
In addition, you'll draw attention to flaws that he probably never even noticed before. No one else looks as closely at your body as you do. In all likelihood, you are your own worst critic. Don't recruit him.
10. "I hate your mom."
Likewise for his friends, his siblings, his dad … even his dog.
If he really loves someone or something, don't hate on 'em. You may not get along perfectly with everyone in his life, but try your hardest to be diplomatic in your relationships with people he really cares about. Be open-minded about what he sees in them (things that may not be immediately obvious to you).
Maybe Deadbeat Dave is his oldest friend — the person he survived middle school with; the only person who stood by him when he lost his job a couple years back. Maybe despite his lack of attention to hygiene, he's got a heart of gold.
If you love your man, you'll trust his judgment.
And whatever you do, don't ever make him pick a side. If it's between you and his mom, you'll lose every time.

15 Ways To Make Your Marriage STRONGER As New Parents

 Don't let the stress of parenthood take away the love you have for each other.

There's no doubt that having a child can turn a marriage into complete chaos, leaving both you and your partner feeling helpless at times. But what I know for certain, after 33 years of marriage and raising our son, is: You can prosper emotionally and spiritually as a couple and a family when the desire and effort are there.
Here are 15 tips to help you navigate your way through this amazing journey of building your family:
1. Remember, you're the parents.

Family and friends will lend advice along the way but this is your child. You know your child better than anyone. Stay on the same page with each other when deciding what’s best for your child and your relationship will thrive.
2. Cheer each other on.
There is a learning curve during this new phase of your life—as a couple, as parents, and as yourself. Place patience and encouragement at the top of your list.
3. Show mutual respect.

You’re both doing the best you know how. Your partner will continue to strive to give you his or her best when you encourage rather than ridicule for their mistakes or lack of confidence.
4. Explore your differences.
This doesn’t mean one person is right and the other is wrong. It simply means there’s more than one way to do things. This is yet another opportunity to learn from each other and take the very best of what you each have to offer as parents.
5. Eliminate score keeping.
The “who puts in more effort” game has no winners. All contributions are important. Ask for more help if you need it, but ask with love and gratitude rather than from anger and expectation.
6. Reveal your greatest fears.
All parents have fears. You might not have experienced those fears before having children and the fears can surprise you. Unrevealed fears are potentially a major cause of tension in your relationship.
7. Honor your partner’s fears.
The fear is still there even if you see no logical reason for your partner’s fear. The more you listen with compassion and ask questions, the more your partner will share and the sooner the fear can be eliminated or lessened with your support.
8. Treat your partner as an equal parent.
A “since I’m home more with our child, my decisions hold more weight” attitude will only push your partner away and create a rift between the two of you. Consider all choices so you both feel equally valued.
9. Seek to understand new behaviors.
Having a child can reveal things about your partner you never saw before. Discuss any new behaviors that are causing friction to learn what’s creating this behavior.
10. Focus on the strengths first.
Remind your partner of all the things they do well as a parent if they’re struggling with a baby issue. Then ask your partner if they would like some input or prefer working through it alone.
11. Express your concerns to each other.
Mom, if you no longer feel sexy or desirable, it’s critical you share this with your partner. Let him help you find your sexiness again. Dad, if you still find your partner attractive but seeing her in the role of mother interferes with your ability to reach out sexually, tell her so she knows you still think she’s beautiful. Let her show you she’s more than just a mother.
12. Do it now, anyway. 
You’re headed for disaster if you wait to have sex until you’re perky again. Push through being tired and just go for it! When you do, you’ll sleep more soundly in your lover’s arms.
13. Keep your bedroom your sanctuary.
It’s so important to have a space that reminds you that you’re not just parents—you’re lovers AND best friends.
14. Watch your child together as he or she sleeps.
You are the only people in the universe who could have given life to this person. Knowing how much you love your little miracle, tell each other how grateful you are to have found one another and formed this family.
15. Lighten up.
The more you laugh the more loving you’ll feel. Laugh at each other. Laugh at yourself. Share it with your partner when you can find the humor underneath the stress.
Linda Salazar, founder of Your Heart Is In Your Hands, is a Relationship Coach, author, speaker and media personality working with smart, proactive, spiritually open women who are ready for remarkable relationships. Experiencing heartbreak or struggling to find a relationship that makes your heart sing?

Your Stress Is Making Your Husband Sick, Says Study

This takes "happy wife, happy life" to a whole new, scary level.

Some believe marriage is naturally difficult. Unfortunately, those who succumb to such negativity may be headed down a dangerous path. Not only does a tumultuous marriage lead to many tear-stained pillows but according to a new study it could also lead to a stressed wife, resulting in greater potential for heart disease for her dear husband.
A new study found that the cardiovascular system is very much affected by a marriage full of drama.
Husbands tend to get high blood pressure when their wives are stressed, and these symptoms get worse if the mariage tanks. The correlation between these symptoms and marriage quality is so strong that a bad marriage can be a prediction of health issues to come.  

The study assessed 356 married and cohabiting couples on their psychosocial and biomeasure in waves between 2006 and 2010. The study then looked at their relationship quality, stress, and blood pressure over time.
So what's the deal? Why do our husband's respond to our stress this way? They're sensitive — that's why.
"We were particularly fascinated that husbands were more sensitive to wives' stress than the reverse especially given all of the work indicating that wives are more affected by the marital tie. We speculate that this finding may result from husbands greater reliance on wives for support which may not be provided when wives are more stressed," says lead author of the study Kira S. Birditt in a press release.
Perhaps a couple's yoga session is in order?

 Credit:  Tango Media Corporation

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