- Jeanette and Alexander Toczko starting 'dating' when they were eight
- They married in 1940, had five children and lived in San Diego, California
- Mr Toczko kept a photo of his wife at her Holy Communion in his wallet
- War veteran's health declined a few weeks ago after he broke hip in fall
- Mrs Toczko also became ill; the inseparable couple were left bed-bound
- They told their children their final wish was to pass in each other's arms
- And earlier this month, they died in bed, holding hands, just hours apart
A
poignant photo has emerged which shows an elderly couple who were
married for 75 years fulfilling their final wishes to die together.
Jeanette
Toczko, 96, and her 95-year-old husband, Alexander Toczko, from San
Diego, California, died just hours apart as they held hands in bed.
The pair spent their lives in love after becoming boyfriend and girlfriend when they were only eight years old.
But
several weeks ago, Mr Toczko suffered a broken hip in a fall and was
left bed-bound. A local hospice delivered a special bed to his home,
which staff pushed up next to his beloved wife's bed.
As
Mr Toczko's condition quickly declined, Mrs Toczko's own health took a
turn for the worse. The couple had always said they wished to die 'in
their own bed, holding hands, in each other's arms'.
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Dying wish: Jeanette Toczko, 96, and
her 95-year-old husband, Alexander Toczko, from San Diego, California,
who were married for 75 years have fulfilled their final wish to die in
each other's arms after they passed away clutching hands, within hours
of each other, in their bed (pictured)
Childhood sweethearts: Jeanette and Alexander Toczko (both pictured above), aged 96 and 95 respectively
Declining health: The couple, from San
Diego, spent their lives in love after becoming boyfriend and
girlfriend when they were only eight. Above, the couple are seen sitting
in their home, in ill health, earlier this month
And
in scenes reminiscent of the 2004 film The Notebook, they passed away
while clutching hands earlier this month: Mr Toczko on June 17, as he
lay beside his wife; and Mrs Toczko, the next day.
The
couple's daughter, Aimee Toczko-Cushman, described the moment she told
her mother she had lost her husband, who kept a photo of Mrs Toczko at
her Holy Communion in his wallet.
'I told my mother he was gone,' she told 10 News.
'She hugged him and she said, "See this is what you wanted. You died in
my arms and I love you. I love you, wait for me, I'll be there soon".'
Mrs
Toczko-Cushman, and the couple's other children, Donna Tang, Richard
Toczko, Lynne Edwards and Andra Toczko, then left the room, to allow
their mother to say a private goodbye.
And less than 24 hours later, Mrs Toczko herself passed away.
'Even
the hospice nurse said it was the most incredible thing to see the two
of them taking those last breaths together,' Ms Toczko-Cushman said of
her parents, both born in Stamford, Connecticut.
Marriage: Several
weeks ago, Mr Toczko (pictured with his wife during their 1940 wedding)
suffered a broken hip in a fall and was left bed-bound. A local hospice
delivered a special bed to his home, which staff pushed up next to his
beloved wife's bed. As Mr Toczko's condition quickly declined, Mrs
Toczko's own health worsened
Doting
grandparents: Mr Toczko, a passionate golfer who regularly attended
Balboa Golf Course, plays with one of his great-grandsons (left), while
his wife beams widely as she holds their great-granddaughter (right)
Mr
and Mrs Toczko, who were the children of Polish immigrants, started
dating as youngsters, before their innocent relationship flourished into
love, marriage and five children of their own.
Following their wedding in 1940, Mr Toczko joined the U.S. Navy as a telegraph operator, according to ABC. He later moved to New York City with his family, where he worked for an advertising firm.
In
1971, the Toczkos moved to San Diego, where Mr Toczko established his
own advertising and fashion photography firm, Blue Sky, U-T San Diego reported. Mrs Toczko was his chief stylist.
During
their lengthy marriage, the couple also went traveling together,
visiting Bermuda. 'Their hearts beat as one from as long as I can
remember,' said Mrs Toczko-Cushman.
Before
his recent fall, Mr Toczko, a passionate golfer, had been a regular at
Balboa Golf Course. The war veteran had a keen interest in drawing, and
often sat and sketched at the golf course.
In love: In scenes reminiscent of the
2004 film The Notebook, the couple (pictured above) passed away while
clutching hands earlier this month: Mr Toczko on June 17, beside his
wife; and Mrs Toczko, the next day
Beloved: Mr and Mrs Toczko (both
pictured, center, with some of their loved ones) started 'dating' as
youngsters, before their innocent relationship flourished into love,
marriage and five children of their own
Meanwhile, his wife doted on her 10 grandchildren and six great-grandchildren.
As
the couple neared death, in early June, a confused Mrs Toczko
reportedly told her children that the date was June 29 - the day she
and Mr Toczko would have celebrated 75 years of marriage.
The couple's children went along with it, telling their mother it was, indeed, the anniversary.
'We
said happy anniversary, and my mother was thrilled because it was their
anniversary and she knew that he was going and that they had made it to
75 years,' said Mrs Toczko-Cushman.
Mr and Mrs Toczko were buried at Miramar National Cemetery in San Diego on Monday.
Daughter: The couple's daughter, Aimee
Toczko-Cushman (pictured), described the moment she told her mother she
had lost her husband. 'I told my mother he was gone,' she said. 'She
hugged him and she said, "See this is what you wanted. You died in my
arms and I love you. I love you, wait for me, I'll be there soon"'
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